Over the weekend I had the amazing opportunity to meet up with not 1, not 2, but 438 of my amazing boss babe internet friends.
Okay well it was more like 7, but still. Getting to meet people in person who you interact with daily is a big deal.
This weekend I got to meet up with 2 girls from from opposite ends of the country: Auntie pearl and Plussomehope; as well as ⅔ of the fluffy girl tribe (apyblog and the dean of fashion and beauty). We got to meet, compare notes, have mini photo shoots, enjoy the vibe of being surrounded by likeminded individuals, and most importantly, laugh.
As a small blogger in a small town, sometimesz its a little tricky getting people to support your journey or even understand what your trying to do. So being surround by people who also spend countless hours on their phones and computers typing up blogs, and talking into cameras, made me feel - well - not so cray cray. It made me feel valid.
On my way home from Atlanta, i was so excited to tell one of my business mentors about all the things I did and learned with these girls. In our conversation he let me know the 3 type of people you need surrounding you as you reach your goals. I'm passing this information onto you as the 3 type of goalfriends every boss babe needs:
#1: The "LushMomma" (Your Mentor)
No matter who you are or what you're doing, you always ALWAYS need a mentor. Even the most successful and richest of folk have mentors (its part of the reason they're both.)
Your Lush Mom is a boss’d up baddie who has already gained success in your area of expertise. She is willing to show you and guide you the way, give you advice, and support you in ways that people who are not in your field, can even understand. She is wiser than you, has more experience than you, and her primary goal is not to coddle you or boost your ego, rather provide you feedback and direction thats going to mold you into a boss B like her.
Now heres the disclaimer. You Lush Momma has to be someone who knows and agrees to be your mentor. In the age of the internet we have people blowing up left and right. While this can motivate us, it is not reasonable for us to expect true mentorship from people who don't even know we exist. It is natural to look to the top-top person in the game o be our mentors, but you need to find someone who is accessible to you, and most importantly, is dedicated to a long term friendship with you. Not just a quick tip here and there.
For me, this person is APY blog. Just inn watching her blog grow I have learned immensly, let alone the things she tell me to help me become a better content creator. She gives me the scoop on the things I need to do to grow my brand and she also cares about my physical and mental health. If I need anything, I can go to her!
#2 You Lush Dolls - Your Motivators
Your lush dolls are the group of girls who are right there with you. Their you Destinys child in the "Soldier" video! In their journey to reach their goals, they’re pretty much in the same position as you. Their hustlers, grinders, shakers and movers. These are the ladies who will stay up with you till 3am eating pizza on the floor while you plan your big break.
You call these ladies when you have a wild idea to see what they think. And most importantly, you collab with these ladies. You trade and test product, you promote each other, and you support them 100% , vice versa.
Your lush dolls may come from your different aspects of life. I have teacher lushdoll's who will listen to my 11pm standardized teaching rants. I have content creator dolls who make sure to actually read my blogs and click on my post to increase my engagement - (and I do the same for them). And I also have my bestfriend's, even though we all have different careers, were all young women with goals of working our way up, so when times get hard, they always answer the call.
Finding a group of Lushdolls is a little easier than finding mentors. just make sure that these girls are true authentic friends. One day, one of you might move past the stage that you are now both in, and you don't want anybody on your team who may harbor any jealousy or ill will!
3. Your Lush Juniors (Mentees)
Think about where you are in life. And think about how much further along you'd be if someone hd kept it 100 with you about how life goes, wayyy a long time ago.
If you had a mentor, or someone in your life supporting you, then you feel grateful for having someone in your corner. If you didn’t, then i bet you wish you had somebody around to tell you all the juice and help you avoid some of those obvious - not so obvious mistakes.
While your not required to be a mentor to any body, refusal to help those who were once in the same position as you just puts bad juju in the air .. (and in your karma.)
Now, you don’t have to mentor the whole blogger community on instagram, but if there is someone who reaches out to you, you identify with their journey and you want to see them succeed, go ahead and offer up your advice and support.
One day your mentees might surpass you, so you never want to be a mentor in someones life unless you are dedicated to their success and you're mentally prepared for them to surpass you.
For black women especially its integral that we build and establish these connections so that we can can succeed, boost those who are succeeding through the glass ceiling, and motivate those who never thought they could!
Enjoy a few more snaps of my Goalfriends below:
Safety disclaimer: Internet people are usually, regular people.Not kidnappers who are waiting to jump you in an alley. However, I must encourage that if your under the age of 18 you never meet with people from the internet, alone. Always go in groups, and meet in public places.
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